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Principles for Living with a Disability

Principles For Living With A Disability
Principles For Living With A Disability

My name is Matt Getting, and I’m a life coach that helps people and parents live with disabilities in a positive, effective way.  I also have Myotonic Muscular Dystrophy and am living proof that these principles work.

We all have limiting beliefs, which are beliefs that we have that are not true. Thoughts such as, “I am not good enough,” “I can’t do that,” or “so and so doesn’t like me.” We need to base our understandings on facts, not assumptions or opinions, in order to grow and create new beliefs.

It’s important to focus on what we can do, not what we can’t do.  We have so much to offer the world with our skills and abilities. Focusing on the things we aren’t able to do puts us in a negative viewpoint that doesn’t serve us well.

We must be present and live in the now.  We can’t change what happened yesterday, and we can’t predict the future. Be present in the moment and embrace today’s opportunities and challenges.

We need to pay attention to the things we can control and let go of things we can’t.  We can’t control other people’s preconceived notions, opinions, or assumptions about us, nor can we control our diagnosis, treatment timelines, or outcome. However, we CAN control our attitude, how we carry ourselves, and how we choose to lives our lives.

It’s essential to live on the right side of the self-fulfilling prophecy.  In other words, when you say you can or can’t, you’re probably right.   We can repeat positive reaffirmations in our minds to pick us up and, in time, believe.  

One of the most important principles is not to let your disability define you.  It is a part of you, but it does not define you as a person.  You have your own identity, values, personal qualities and talents, and abilities that live outside of your disability.  

Focus on being the best version of yourself you can be.  This happens through overcoming challenges, learning from failures, and continuing to grow as a person.  What can you do today to continue on your personal journey of growth and development?

At times we can become a victim of our circumstances and allow those circumstances to rule us.  Once we take ownership of our disability, we become empowered and are able to make choices and decisions that give us the power to control what we can control.

We all have incredible talents and gifts, and it’s important that we share them with the world.  Once we can accept who we are as a person, overcome our victim mentality, control what we can control, and define ourselves by our identity and values, we can become the best version of ourselves.

I am happy to provide my coaching service to guide you on the journey of living successfully with your disability and overcoming perceived insurmountable roadblocks and challenges.  Please reach out to me at matt@gettingcoaching.com or 515-490-4670